I’m starting to learn that there are Givers and Takers in life. For lack of a better explanation, I usually just say that people “give, give, give” or “take, take, take.” You probably know which side of the spectrum you fall on. And there’s probably a middle ground in there somewhere, but I haven’t really given it much thought because I really only see the two extremes in my daily life.
Last Wendesday, we had a blizzard. During the day, Michael and I went outside a total of three times to clean off our cars and shovel around our respective vehicles. By the time all was said and done, and the rest of our driveway had gotten plowed, we were looking at two nice and clear spots for our cars. Our one neighbor’s space (we share a house with three other tenants) was so-so, but our other neighbors, a married couple, didn’t do anything all day as far as clearing out snow. Their spot was just a big mess.
Over the weekend, Michael and I were gone for a couple days, and we returned to the house to find that the aforementioned couple had taken their car out of their crappy spot, and then parked it in our immaculately clean spot instead. So, Michael then got stuck parking on a huge mound of snow and ice.
One word comes to mind in this situation: inconsiderate. I couldn’t believe that they would actually just sit back and do nothing while Michael and I worked diligently to ensure that our areas were taken care of, and then just slide into one of our spots like it was no big deal! This is how I know I’m not a Taker—I would never do something like that. I would never do that because I think about my actions and how they may affect others. I also try to put myself in others’ shoes. So, if I were said neighbor, I would have thought to myself, “Hhm, maybe I shouldn’t park in the spot that Michael and Rachel cleaned out. After all, I was too lazy to shovel out my own spot. They’d probably think I was a douchebag if I took advantage of them like that.” Well, I have news for you. The neighbors didn’t think that, but now I do think they’re douchebags.
Everywhere I look, I see people take, take, take. It upsets me, but I know there’s nothing I can do about it. Except vilify them in blog form, I guess.